Breakups are hard for anyone. Figuring out how to set boundaries, how to refocus your life, and then how to find a new normal are all hard things to do after ending a relationship with someone. Sometimes, in that process, you may consider getting back together with that individual; here are some things you should consider before you go forward with that plan.
You Try to Get Back Together
According to Health Shots, if you are trying to navigate a relationship with someone that you have previously dated, you should know how to recognize when it is unhealthy to keep trying to make things work. A tell-tale sign that it is time to move on is your past experience trying to make a relationship work with someone.
If you have already given a relationship multiple shots without success, recognize that it is actually much harder to tackle already set habits and patterns, making it increasingly harder to build a healthy functioning relationship when you already have baggage with someone.
Stalking and Harassment
One of the most important signs to pay attention to when trying to figure out how to proceed with someone is how they treat you when you don’t tell them what they want to hear. If after you broke up with your ex, they continue to disrespect your wishes and attempt to contact you, recognize that as a sign that they care more about controlling you than they care about you.
Stalking and harassment can take more forms than the forms you may initially think of. For example, according to Bradley Corbett Defense Lawyer, receiving unwanted letters, emails or gifts can be considered stalking.
In addition to experiencing stalking or harassment by an ex, according to The Psychology Group, you may also experience gaslighting. Gaslighting occurs when one party—the one trying to manipulate the other—acts as if events that did happen never actually did.
If your ex contacts you and tries to convince you that you are crazy for feeling the way you did when you broke up with them, know that that tactic is a form of unhealthy manipulation and a sign that getting back together with them would not be good.
Navigating a breakup is always difficult and always pretty unique according to the specific situation. But regardless of your already existing relationship with your ex, don’t try and justify the situation if any unhealthy things are happening. Be willing to recognize and then not accept anything like stalking or gaslighting.
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